Top 4 Reasons Relationships Fail

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Every relationship has a learning curve that may take years for either spouse to understand. However, if you are struggling to understand your relationship, it may be beneficial for you to begin by understanding why some marriages end. A study released by psychology professor John Gottman on the leading reasons people get divorced sheds some light as to why it happens and how to prevent it. Below are his top four findings:

  • Criticism – Only constructive criticism should be used, but even too much of that leads to reduced morale of the couple.
  • Contempt – Regarded as the strongest indicator of divorce, it is best avoided at all times.
  • Defensiveness – In a marriage there should be very few cases of defensiveness; it is important to always feel comfortable with your partner.
  • Stonewalling – Commonly referred to as the “silent treatment,” frequently shutting down communication with a spouse creates an unhealthy marriage.

By understanding and being conscious of these root causes, couples may be able to prevent serious marital issues before they arise. If you or someone you know is in a struggling relationship, please get help while you still want to repair it. Marriage counselor Kathleen Snyder, of Marriage Like New, has specialized in helping Austin couples maintain their marriages for two decades. Contact her office today at (512)-659-8600.