Thanksgiving: A Great Time to Start My Blog!

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Do you know the wisdom of recounting our joys, even though problems still exist?  I like the way Thich Nhat Hanh, the venerable Zen Master puts it:  The seed of suffering in you may be strong, but don’t wait until you have no more suffering before allowing yourself to be happy.

In my marriage counseling practice, I like to keep in mind always to balance these two things.  Most couples still have some important things going for them, as well as some problems to solve.  Within the first session or two, I ask not only about how each of the two sees the problem, but also what first attracted them to each other.  If you had a good start with each other, there is a good chance you can get it back and then some!

Also, as individuals, it’s helpful to recount the things we’re grateful for, so that the positives in our life get as much airtime as the difficulties.  Most of us have to be deliberate about this to make it happen.

This Thanksgiving, I’m grateful for my husband and son, with whom I had the pleasure of sharing this past beautiful week!  I’m grateful for friends who enrich my life and who give me the chance to make it mutual.   I don’t remember a more beautiful set of Indian Summer days than these past few.  Sublime, to work in my garden, and feel Autumn’s warmth.  As a marriage counselor, I have the most meaningful work imaginable!  Austin is a great place to live! The list goes on …

What have you been giving thanks for?